What Makes a Great Lover?

Browse the virtual shelves of Amazon and you’ll find hundreds of books that promise to reveal the secrets to becoming a great lover. Go to any magazine stand and you’ll see dozens of magazines with tips on how to drive your lover wild in bed, be the greatest lover known to man, and invent levels of sexual satisfaction that defy gravity and the laws of nature.
The message these books convey is that with the right teacher and enough hard work you can actually become a great lover, the kind of person has all the right lines and all the right moves. Someone who, in short, can turn hop into bed with anyone and create an unforgettable night of unparalleled sexual bliss.
I’d like to propose that this is a flawed premise. I don't believe that anyone is great with everyone. I don't buy that with the right technique or know how you can have great sex with every single person you encounter. Phenomenal sex is, to some extent, about the chemistry between the two people having it. You might be someone’s idea of the perfect lover, but with another partner the sex may fall flat.
While there is something to be said for sexual technique, and knowing how to talk about sex, a “great lover” is not in the moves or the talk, it’s in the whole package.