Importance of Body Language

When you feel good about yourself, like when you feel self confident, feel very happy, and are open minded, doesn’t it feel like a better experience when you meet people than when you are sad, angry, depressed, or have low self esteem? What about when someone walks into a room and even though they might not be drop dead gorgeous, everyone else in the room seems to admire them and want to be around them?
The key is body language. People tend to be attracted to people expressing great body language which leads to high demeanor, charisma, and energy. Understanding our body language is sometimes challenging but what should we do to improve our first impressions?
1. Cheer up. Don’t try to make a complicated or deep conversation. Make a light, easy, and flowing conversation without trying too hard. Even if you feel down and low, lighten up by meeting someone new and having a casual conversation.
2. Make eye contact. Be aware of where you focus your attention and movement of your eyes. If you are not making eye contact with the person you are talking to and let your eyes shy away, you might be taken as rude. If a man is looking in your direction, you should give him the hint to approach you by making eye contact. That doesn’t mean having a stare contest, but just a glance in his direction will do the trick.
3. Smile often. Many of us forget this simple key factor in boosting our charisma, especially when we feel nervous or uneasy. The best way to make others around you feel comfortable is if you give them a warm and welcoming smile.
4. Don’t cross arms. By crossing your arms, this can be taken by the other person as a sign to stay away. It’s hard to be open with someone who seems guarded. Sometimes we find ourselves naturally crossing our arms in conversations, so be aware when making this mistake.
5. Be proud and confident. If we slouch or don’t stand up straight, we can come off as someone not too confident or proud. Stand up straight and be proud.
6. Don’t talk so fast. Slow down your speech and don’t talk too fast. This can give the impression that you are nervous and might come off as high strung. Take a deep breath and try to slow down your talking.